The Good Woman Trap

The shoulds, shouldn'ts, musts and can'ts are the limiting beliefs you were conditioned to quietly decide how you're allowed to express yourself and how big your life gets to be.

A FREE 45-minute webinar with Dr. Aleksandra Wruk
Wed 16 September · 7pm UK · Live on Zoom · Replay for 48 hours

Sounds familiar?

You only sit down once everyone else is sorted. Which is never.
You apologise before you ask for anything.
Everyone says "oh, you're so capable" meanwhile your jaw's been clenched since March.
You know what you need… and won't let yourself have it.
Something in you wants more out of life, but you convince yourself that you should be grateful.

The part nobody says out loud

"I should be grateful."

"I shouldn't need this much."

"I must keep everyone happy."

"I can't ask for that."

It feels like being decent but in reality it's the prison that keeps you small.

You learned to say these from young age, because being good got you what you needed to survive, but it's a high price to pay for attention, love and belonging.
You've adapted, to a world that runs better when women want and say less.

Those rules are about who you have to be to fit.

Time to break free and ask more out of life!

Can't make it live? The replay will be available for 48 hours.

The four prisons

The shoulds govern your behaviour. They fill your life with obligations and duties.
The shouldn'ts govern your expression. They decide what's safe to feel, need, say or want out loud.
The musts are the conditions of your worth. Meet them and you're a good woman.
The can'ts decide what's off the table. They arrive as facts, so you never think to argue.

What it all costs you

Your desire. You've been so good for so long that when someone asks what you want you say "oh, I don't mind." You're liked by everyone and known by nobody and slowly but steady you're burning out!

What happens when you put them down

You want things again. Loudly, greedily, without checking whether you're allowed. You say no without a reason and yes without earning it. You take up room. You let yourself be looked after, looked at, delighted in. Your body comes back alive, and with it your appetite, your humour, your sensuality

Not a new you. The one who's been under there the whole time.

During the webinar you will:

Find the sentence that's keeping you where you are, and whose voice it's actually in
Feel where it lives in your body, because that's why understanding it hasn't been enough
See clearly what it's been costing you: the choices you didn't make, the things you stopped asking for
Leave knowing what's underneath it, and what becomes possible once it loosens

Why I'm running this webinar?

I want empowered, self-loving, grounded, deeply connected women living lives of passion and purpose - not the shoulds!

I'm Dr. Aleksandra Wruk, a somatic facilitator with PhD in mental wellbeing.

I stayed years too long in a job that was eating me alive, because on paper it was the dream. Every time my body said this is costing too much, I answered: " Oh but I should be grateful."

It was never really about the job. It was about how little I'd let myself want, and how long I'd been that way. I'd been good for so long I'd lost who I actually was.

I know how many women, just like I did, are still holding themselves a prisoner and calling it kindness.